Relationships, however beautiful they might be, come with their own set of issues and problems. We try to deal with them in the best possible way, but not everything that’s broken meant to be repaired again. And, with a heavy heart, we often have to pull the curtains.
Breakups are never easy, no matter who is calling the shots – You or your sexy companion. It takes time to get over any serious relationship and each one among us needs our own time to do so. However, there probably isn’t one soul out there who has been through a breakup and never dreams of having the relationship back the way the person dreamt it to be. We really wish our ex will change and turn a new leaf, but sadly, that isn’t really the case.
So, what happens when your ex comes back for real and claims to have changed? What if the person you left claims that he/she has turned a new leaf? Is your ex being honest or is this yet another façade? The questions are numerous, the doubts are serious, and we yet again face a crossroad we wished not to. But now there’s a decision to make and this can be a life-changing one.
Has your ex changed?
Ask anyone among your closest friends and those with your best interest in their heart, and they will scream how big a mistake you are about to make by giving your ex another chance. Even your mind will tell you that you are about to make the dumbest decision if you are thinking of allowing your ex in your life one more time. But alas, the heart still wishes to believe the person you so dearly loved once! So, how can you be sure which way to take? Well, there is no litmus test to know the truth in an instant, but if you do not wish to live with regret, you will probably give the person another chance.
Testing your ex
Before you even consider trusting your ex’s words, make sure that you have enough reason to do so. And, start by testing the person. It should always begin by being friends first, in the truest definition. There can be no intimacy, definitely no sex, and no staying together all through the day. You are still single.
We all give our partners multiple chances at making their mistakes right, and even you must have done that already. So, remember, this person had ample chance to change in the past but didn’t. now, if this person has truly changed and loves you, he/she will do all that’s necessary to be in your life, and that includes respecting your boundaries and taking time to prove the point.
At any point of time, if you have a feeling that your ex is trying to rush things or there are red flags about old behavior, call it quits at that instant. Remember, in the end, this isn’t a mere second chance, but an umpteenth chance to make things work. If it still isn’t, it will never in future!
